Whatever type of involvement you have, whether it be work, friendship, romantic, or family, it’s always good to look for ways to improve your relationships. You know, to check the temperature so to speak! 😉
1) Stay connected
Even if you can’t get together all of the time, it’s important to
stay and feel connected to the people you’re involved with. A phone call
once a week, a text once a day – any gesture that keeps the connection
going and lets the other person know you care will help keep the
relationship going strong.
Sometimes that’s all that’s needed in a relationship. Just listen.
Don’t give advice or try to make someone feel better, just listen to
what they have to say. I know that there are times when I just need a
sounding board. The answers are already within me, and sometimes all it
takes to find the answers is my friend listening to me and staying quiet
while providing motions of affirmation :-).
3) Accept them for who they are
This is one of the most important things needed for a lasting
relationship. I know when I was younger, I’d get involved, either
romantically or platonically, and if there was something that I didn’t
like, I’d think, “I can change that.” With time and experience, of
course, I have learned that it’s not loving to want someone to change.
We need to accept people for who they are. That doesn’t mean you need to
stay in that relationship – but you do need to accept that person for
who they are.
4) Express gratitude
We all like to be the source of someone’s grateful! Doesn’t it feel
good to be thanked? Don’t you love it when someone says, “I appreciate
you.” Return that sentiment. Tell them you’re grateful for them. Send
them a ‘thank-you’ card or surprise them with a small gift.
5) Give as much as you expect to get
This is true for friendships, romantic involvements, and work
relationships. Have you ever worked with someone who always asked for
favors, but when the time came that you needed something, they were
unavailable? Relationships are a two-way street and can’t survive
long-term when they’re out of balance.
6) Admit when you’re wrong
My mother once told me that the key to a successful relationship is
these four words: “You may be right.” This is not to say that you should
stifle what you feel if you’re right, but if you’re wrong – admit it
and move on.
7) Let go of resentments
Hanging onto resentments has no upside. Not only does it hurt the other person and the relationship, but really – it hurts you the most. Resentments are toxic and at the end of the day, pointless. So let go. Have a conversation about what’s bothering you and don’t hold it in.
Those are just a few tips, maybe you have some you’d like to share with us in the comments? And, the more you practice these in your current relationships, the easier it will become to naturally attract good relationships.